Thanksgiving is almost here, which means our homes will soon be filled with the scents of favorite holiday recipes, wafting from the stovetop or oven. For many of us, hosting a holiday meal marks a milestone in "adulting." I remember when Kelsey and I hosted my family for Easter in our cozy 800-square-foot apartment in Indiana. We all huddled in the kitchen cooking, sharing laughs, and later gathered around our small table, spilling into the living room to enjoy our meal together. These moments remind me that holidays aren’t just about delicious food—they’re about gathering with intention and nurturing connection.
This year, instead of only focusing on setting, food, and logistics, let’s follow Priya Parker’s advice from The Art of Gathering to make our time together truly meaningful. As Parker explains, when gatherings are designed with a purpose, they become more impactful and memorable. Consider why you’re gathering this Thanksgiving. Beyond the obvious, what would make this time together special or restorative for you and your loved ones?
For those hosting Thanksgiving, Parker suggests preparing guests ahead of time to help them come ready to contribute meaningfully. For example, you could ask guests to bring a story about a time they felt truly grateful. You might also try a hosting “rule” to foster connection. Consider asking each guest to take turns serving the person next to them, ensuring plates and cups are filled by one another throughout the meal. Small acts like these reinforce gratitude and create bonds among guests, making the gathering feel communal and supportive.
If you’re a guest, think about how you can add meaning, too. Are you bringing a dish? Try connecting it to a story you’d like to share with the group—maybe it’s a recipe with family history or one that reminds you of something you’re grateful for. Sharing that story along with the food makes the meal richer and invites others to be part of your memories.
Thanksgiving reminds us that gratitude should be practiced daily, and one of the best ways to do this is through connection. A friend of mine keeps a sign that says, “And yet,” reminding them that even on hard days, there’s good that exists alongside the struggles. In this season, let’s remember this. You might even start each day with a one-minute gratitude pause, reflecting on the small blessings around you.
As Thanksgiving arrives, may we approach each person at our gatherings with the same care and attention we give to our favorite recipes. Let’s create a space where everyone feels seen, valued, and grateful.